[kendra k]

hi all. i need some advice, or really calming down. there's this guy i know from my radio station i work at (college radio). he and i used to be friends and in bands, but we sorta dropped off and now just see eachother from time to time, though still pretty friendly. he wants to be my co-director for dj training at the station. i agreed to talk to him about it because, being friends, i figured it was fair, but i'm dreading it because i don't think i want to work with him. here are some reasons:
1- he's very clique-ish. he likes cool kids and is sort of oblivious to everybody else, not a nice way to get kids comfortable with dj-ing.
2- he's super busy. the job takes a lot of time (10 hours, volunteering, a week.) he's in bands that tour and is mr. social. i already have a co-director who never helps, i don't need another one.
3- he's very political and hates the station management. he's paranoid. it's really stupid because he and the station manager both despise one another irrationally, and i'm tired of both of their crap.

it's making me sort of sick thinking about this. i don't want him to yell at me, get angry, and demonize me like he does all of his enemies, but i don't think i can handle working with him again.

i need courage!

[Betti911]

I'd tell him you have other applicants for the job in the pipeline. Never hire someone you aren't comfortable with from the outset as its so difficult to get rid of them once you've employed them.

[kendra k]

it's not hiring per se, but it's signing up together. i need to find other applicants.

[Sidders]

If you don't think he'll have time to do it anyway then maybe it won't bother you too much.

I know the sort of situation you're in, and I've never found a way out of it. There's this guy I know, and he's sort of retarded, he has some sort of genetic mental condition. Anyway, I used to be mates with him as he is ok in very small doses, and as he used to live away and I didn't see him that much. Now he lives back here and he tries to hang around with me all the time, and he really is the most irritating person you could possibly imagine. He tells lies, he's dishonest, in conversation he always asks the same questions, he seems unhealthily obcessed with how much money people have and earn. I wouldn't trust him with anything, and it has been known in the past for things to go missing when he is around, only for them to have been found in his possession.

I took to ignoring him as much as I possibly could without appearing overly rude. It sorta worked for a while, but to my dismay, he approached our Scout leader to ask if he could come and help. The previous Scout leader hated his guts and he would never have let him come. I was half tempted to quit helping if he started coming, but I've carried on, and am sticking to my usual tact of ignoring him as much as I can. The other week, the leader had collected subs from one of the scouts and had foolishly left it on the table. Needless to say, it was gone at the end of the evening, and although I cannot prove anything, I am sure he took it. The guy is a liability, and to make matters worse, the leader has now told him the code to the door, and he knows where the key to the store cupboard is kept. I really do not trust him with either of these things, but I cannot say anything to the leader, as he doesn't know what he's like; if you don't know him that well he seems quite a charming gentleman, he always dresses smart and is polite. I don't really trust him with the kids either, he used to work at a PGL centre (google it) and I don't know the reason why he 'left' (or if he was sacked, but he's been very sketchy about details, and I wouldn't believe anything he says anyway).

Anyway, sorry for rambling on, and sorry for hijacking your thread Kendra.

[kendra k]

you didn't hijack the thread. that guy sounds like an absolute horror to deal with. my guy isn't so bad, but he's in a permanent state of adolesence. he's 35, acts like he's 21. we had our falling out because i wanted to focus on school and get a job and he thought i was being crazy. he's also upset that i stopped drinking and keeps hinting that i really want to drink beer- believe me, i don't.

i guess i'll try to tell him i have doubts, and that's reason enough not to do it.

[Adam]

Aww Kendra *hug* x

[Betti911]

Both guys sound horrid. Sidla's guy especially I would not let near children. You should report your concerns to the scout leader. Otherwise you never know what might happen. Believe me I get to see the results of people with an unhealthy interest in children and it really makes me sick.

[Sidders]

He doesn't have an unhealthy interest in children really, but he is quite pervy. He's obcessed with porn, and signs himself up for dating sites and uses chat lines and stuff. Don't get me wrong, I don't think he's dangerous, he's just not trustworthy.

I can't really report him, because any accusation would be unfounded from the leaders point of view.

[Sidders]

The other week, the leader had collected subs from one of the scouts and had foolishly left it on the table. Needless to say, it was gone at the end of the evening, and although I cannot prove anything, I am sure he took it.

He's struck again. This time, on a trip to the Scout shop, one of the Scouts mums lost her purse. It was only to be 'found' by this guy, and lo and behold, 60 pounds has gone missing. This time I have expressed my concerns to the leader, as that is quite a lot of money. I told him I have no proof, but I'm just concerned about him.

[Walter Sobchak]

i guess i'll try to tell him i have doubts, and that's reason enough not to do it.

I agree, best to be straight with him, after all, the worst he could do is end your friendship, just think, no more nagging to drink beer!

And Sidla...... You really should tell someone about this, make sure whoever you tell understands that at this point you are telling them in confidence, and if there isn't proof, then just tell them you need to mention it as a precaution in case things start to go too far, at least You have warned them.

[Sidders]

And Sidla...... You really should tell someone about this, make sure whoever you tell understands that at this point you are telling them in confidence, and if there isn't proof, then just tell them you need to mention it as a precaution in case things start to go too far, at least You have warned them.

This time I have expressed my concerns to the leader, as that is quite a lot of money. I told him I have no proof, but I'm just concerned about him.

[Walter Sobchak]

And Sidla...... You really should tell someone about this, make sure whoever you tell understands that at this point you are telling them in confidence, and if there isn't proof, then just tell them you need to mention it as a precaution in case things start to go too far, at least You have warned them.

This time I have expressed my concerns to the leader, as that is quite a lot of money. I told him I have no proof, but I'm just concerned about him.

Hmmm, signs of senility????

[Sidders]

Well, it did the trick! He's been kicked out. Apparently he admitted taking the money in the end, after some of the subs he was supposed to be taking to the treasureur's house went missing too.