[kendra k]

is this where we complain and ask for advice?

my boyfriend's brother is pissing me off. he's a sad single geek who won't stop calling/interefering with our relationship. i've grown to sort of hate him. i know i shouldn't but i do. my boyfriend's tried to set limits, like only answering 2 of his phone calls a night, but he's every where. ugh.

anyhow, i'm trying not to turn into a harpie shrew like my sister in law, but i don't know. he reminds me of an arrogant sidla, only clingy and weird. should i tell him off next time he's a jerk to me?

[Quincy]

poo in his bed

[Gaspode_The_Wonder_Dog]

yeah i reckon your bf should pull his finger out. so to speak.

[kendra k]

hmm, both good suggestions. i was thinking about telling him he's a fat loser and will die alone.

[Gaspode_The_Wonder_Dog]

works on me. sob.

[Quincy]

dont worry im sure youre not that fat

[Gaspode_The_Wonder_Dog]

how can you be sure eh? how?

im going to cut some off with a carving knife.

[Sidders]

I'm quite offended that he reminds you of me. In what way is he anything like me?

[Gaspode_The_Wonder_Dog]

a pain in the arse?

[kendra k]

when i first met him, i quite liked him. he seemed sincere, gentle natured, but just a tad too geeky. hence he reminded me of you, sidders. then as i got to know him, i realised he's just a little too into his own geekiness, and uses it as a defense mechanism.

the problems arose when: 1- he started calling 3-4 times each day. 2- he planned visits up here without warning, thus making us drop everything to entertain him. 3- started meddling with their sister's relationship and getting mad at my boyfriend for not following suit. i know he's not malicious, but he needs some friends!

[Sidders]

That is nowhere near me. I'm not at all geeky in real life.

[kendra k]

you work in computers, don't you?

[MK Chris]

That's not necessarily geeky... I'm biased but there is a perception that IT people are all monotone, tall skinny boys with black-rimmed glasses that have 3 inch thick lenses and are utter social retards... While Sidders (and Console) may be like this, most of us aren't. Thanks.

Oh and tell him you'll scratch all his Star Trek DVDs to pieces if he doesn't cooperate.

[Gigglyboots]

Hmm, he sounds very needy.. I'd nearly take the phone out of the wall. Is there anything genuinely bothering him that he needs you guys around, or does he just turn up for the fun of it?

[Betti911]

I'd say he's feeling left out. He prob had his brother all to himself before he met you. You should talk to your boyfriend and tell him that although you don't object to him spending time with his brother it shouldn't interfere with your time together. Get him to set aside a night a week where he meets up with his brother and you don't go along and that means that you can go out with the girls and the brother will be happy too?

[kendra k]

it'd be easier for them to hang out if he were closer, but the brother lives in LA and we live near san francisco. when the brother does come up here to visit, he stays with us the night he arrives and the night before he leaves because we're closer to the airport, but then he spends the rest of the time at their sister's (across the bay), still calling multiple times a night.

maybe i'll just start making my boyfriend visit him once a month or something.

[Sidders]

That's not necessarily geeky... I'm biased but there is a perception that IT people are all monotone, tall skinny boys with black-rimmed glasses that have 3 inch thick lenses and are utter social retards... While Sidders (and Console) may be like this, most of us aren't. Thanks.

I think social retard is harsh. I may not be the most sociable of people, but I do have friends. And even though my job involves fixing computers, it's all pretty low-level stuff. Half the time I don't even know what I've done to fix something. I'm nowhere near Consoles level. And Topher, you can't even speak because you do a lot of programming, which is way beyond me.

[kendra k]

the breakdown of geerkery/computer expertise astounds me sometimes.

i know little. i know more than i used to because my boyfriend studies computers. he's not good with programming so much because he is more into hardware/chip design. from listening to him drone on about his chip, i've decided that most computers are voodoo.

from hearing about people talk about programming stuff, and higher level program design stuff, i know it's all voodoo.

though IT support stuff is actually easy, still some voodoo, but you get luckier easier, which is why i hate my IT guys being condescending.

from what i gather, my bf's brother used to be very usefull and skilled, but got stuck at a dead end job not doing what he wants, and he's been there for so long that he's out-moded. it's pretty sad to be 33 and be obsolete. he's really depressed about not getting the google job, and it's more sad that i know 3 people straight out of uni who got essentially the job he applied for.

computers are WHACK! books are AWESOME!

[Console]

computers are WHACK! books are AWESOME!

What about e-books, or the new e-ink?

[MK Chris]

And Topher, you can't even speak because you do a lot of programming, which is way beyond me.

Yes but I can talk to women. And humans generally.

[Console]

That's not necessarily geeky... I'm biased but there is a perception that IT people are all monotone, tall skinny boys with black-rimmed glasses that have 3 inch thick lenses and are utter social retards... While Sidders (and Console) may be like this, most of us aren't.

Hey, I'm not like that at all, well, I'm fairly tall and skinny, but I don't have glasses (not that that's a bad thing) and have no problem communicating with people.

Besides, I thought the perception was that IT people were fat and lazy from sitting at a computer all day.

[MK Chris]

Yes but to people on here you are the ultimate image of geekdom... So you had to get a mention. Really I've no idea what any of you are like.

[Console]

Yes but to people on here you are the ultimate image of geekdom.

Err, thanks? Although the term geek (and I suppose geekdom) is not offensive, many people mean it as though it were, so...thanks!

[Sidders]

Yes but I can talk to women. And humans generally.

I can talk to women, in fact I find women easier to talk to than men most of the time. Just that if I like them I can't tell them. That's not geekyness it's just bashfulness.

[MK Chris]

I know I'm only jesting.