[Adi Saunders]

I was dumped 7 months ago now by my girlfriend on 5 years and even now I am still not over her. Don't get me wrong things are getting easier but I still have moments where I just want to hear her voice or hold her in my arms. She has a son too who was the salt of the earth and I loved him like my own.

So how long does it take to 'get over' a break up or move on?

[fish heads]

O/T Not watching the Saints match Adi?

[Adi Saunders]

O/T Not watching the Saints match Adi?

Yup although for what it's worth I shouldn't have bothered.

[Adam]

piece of string

[Sidders]

Never mind a break up - I was rejected 7 months ago and I still can't get the girl outta my mind. Ho hum, such is life.

[Bricktop]

Average woman - 6 months to 50 years

Average man - However many days it is untill the weekend.

[Longview01]

depends, take as long as you need

[Sweetzombie]

I was ditched two years ago and I still cant get over her....she's really really fat and I need the toilet...please help me.

[Betti911]

I don't think there is a specific time limit to get over a breakup. Think you just have to concentrate on other things until you find someone else.

[Yudster]

It takes as long as it takes - but you can help yourself by being as positive as possible. If you just mope and feel sorry for yourself, it'll take longer - if you can try to consciously suppress feeling bad, it will actually help in the long run. Just because you don't feel like it doesn't mean you shouldn't smile! Blimey, I sound like Pollyanna.........!

Anyway, you sound pretty healthy I would have said, five years is probably a significant proportion of your life, and we are talking about a child here too - seven months on you sound in a reasonable place to me.

[Sweetzombie]

I was in a relationship for five years and it took about a year and a half before I went on a date after it ended....cost me 50 quid but it was a great night.
Seriously though... five years is a long time and once your past the comparing every other woman to her than your well on the road to recovery

[Yudster]

I was in a relationship for five years and it took about a year and a half before I went on a date after it ended....cost me 50 quid but it was a great night.
Seriously though... five years is a long time and once your past the comparing every other woman to her than your well on the road to recovery

Wow, sweetzombie, you really do have a sensitive side don't you! Hidden depths.......

[Sweetzombie]

actually I have Multiple Personality Disorder....Three people in me....oooo sexy.

[Yudster]

Three into one can go.........!

[Ballbag]

I see there's a lot of sympathy here, however I'm of the other camp. I once split with a girlfriend of 4 years... and even three years later I was still getting bothered by her.... and her friends "what have you done to her, why don't you have her back"...... THREE YEARS LATER !!!!! I don't want to sound harsh and some will say that I am, but you really do just have to...... as it were.... get over it. And whatever you do (and I'm not saying you are or will) don't make her life a misery too...... rant over.

[Yudster]

Its a good point bag_of_balls, I have a friend who has been divorced for two years now and his ex still won't leave him alone. Nightmare. You do have to move on - sounds like Adi Saunders is doing that though, just get a little blue sometimes......?

[kendra k]

nothing's more pathetic than somebody who pines away for years when the other person's moved on. it's also sad though to see people "move on" when clearly they're just lonely and trying to legitimize a rebound.

[Yudster]

nothing's more pathetic than somebody who pines away for years when the other person's moved on. it's also sad though to see people "move on" when clearly they're just lonely and trying to legitimize a rebound.

This sounds horribly as though you are saying that you can't actually get it right whichever way you go....?!

[kendra k]

no, i think you can. it really depends on the person. but moving on too fast can be dangerous as well.

[Sidders]

Well, as someone else said above, I think I am actually starting to piss the girl I fancy off. I'm now actively trying to minimise interaction with her now because it has got to the stage where I need to move on. I want to stay friends, but I need to get over my feelings first.

[Nicola_Red]

I was dumped 7 months ago now by my girlfriend on 5 years and even now I am still not over her. Don't get me wrong things are getting easier but I still have moments where I just want to hear her voice or hold her in my arms. She has a son too who was the salt of the earth and I loved him like my own.

So how long does it take to 'get over' a break up or move on?

Feelin' your pain. I split from my fiance almost 9 months ago after 6 yrs together and it's still just really difficult. Read It's Called A Breakup Because It's Broken; a horribly american book, but nevertheless it's helped me a lot.

[Sweetzombie]

I'm going to die alone.......could be worse.